# 3 Book Reviews: Execution, The Secret of the Ages, Man's Search for Himself

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> Author: Chuck — iCharles, https://icharles.com
> Published: 2020-01-24 · Updated: 2026-07-07

I don't do a book review every week, and honestly some books don't deserve their own video. So I stacked three at once: Execution, The Secret of the Ages, and Man's Search for Himself. Different decades, different authors, but I read them close together and they kept talking to each other. Least favorite to favorite, here's what stuck.

## Man's Search for Himself: chasing goals that were never mine

Rollo May wrote this right after World War II, and by page four he's already got me. His point: you spend two decades chasing external goals — the car, the title, the house on the beach — because your parents and your teachers handed them to you. Then somewhere around 40 you realize those weren't your goals at all. You're a collection of mirrors reflecting what everyone else expected.

I know this story personally. A friend of mine grew up with a dad who built a real HVAC engineering company, tens of millions in revenue, and wanted his son in it. The son didn't want it. They didn't speak for years over that. I actually interned there one summer for $1,400 a month doing basically nothing, and even then I could feel the weight of "this is supposed to be your life now."

May also drops a story about a Bronx bus driver who got bored one day and just drove his empty bus to Florida. The neighborhood treated him like a folk hero. That's not a cute anecdote — that's what happens when boredom curdles into despair and nobody around you is living on purpose either.

What I took from it: I stopped treating "what everyone expects" as the same thing as "what I want." I deleted Instagram and YouTube off my phone for exactly this reason — too much of my day was spent reflecting other people's highlight reels back at myself instead of checking in on my own.

## The Secret of the Ages: change how you talk to yourself

This one I give a 5 out of 5 as an audiobook. I listened to it twice on a trip to Seattle and started a third time. Repetitive, yes, but it needs to be. The whole book comes down to one line: your environment, your success, and your happiness are of your own making. Your outside is a direct reflection of your inside. Full stop.

The part that actually changed my behavior: there's no philosophy by which a man can do a thing when he believes he can't. If you walk up to a deal, or a girl, or a client call already convinced it won't work, your tone, your body language, your words all confirm it. It's not magic. It's congruence.

How I applied it: I switched my affirmations from future tense to present tense. Not "I will have a great year," but "thank you for this year" — as if it's already arriving. Small shift, but it changed the daily self-talk from wishing to expecting.

## Execution: I was a bad leader and didn't know it

Execution is a leadership book, written in 2002, no fluff, no PC hedging — just cause and effect. Bossidy and Charan break real leadership into three jobs: pick and build up other leaders, set the direction, and run operations with real accountability.

I read this and saw myself in the failure case. I hired five people once and all five left. I wasn't in the trenches with them — I was the guy behind the cannons while I sent everyone else onto the field. "You make the calls, I'm the owner" is not leadership, it's abdication.

One line stuck hardest: A players hire A players, but B players hire C players, and C players hire D players. If you don't actively build up the people under you, you're not building a company, you're diluting one. And if someone doesn't buy into the culture, you remove them regardless of how much revenue they produce — the team always performs better after, because that one person was quietly holding everyone else back.

How I apply it now: on my team, we don't look at the whole mountain of 3,600 leads to call. We look at 50 contacts a day, five numbers each, 250 calls. That's the accountability piece — a system small enough that showing up every day actually works.

## Who should read these

Skip Man's Search for Himself unless you want the psychology behind why so many successful-looking people are miserable at 40 — it's worth it, just not urgent. Read The Secret of the Ages on audio, more than once. And if you manage anyone, read Execution before you hire your next person — it'll save you from the mistake I made.